IT Pilgrimage

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WoW Widow Never Again

Posted by IT Pilgrim on September 23, 2008

Are you a wow widow? Everquest or Battlefields widow? Ladies, or Gentlemen, if you can’t beat them (the games) join them. For years I have battled with online games, and the amount of time and energy they suck out of a family. I’m tired of fighting it. Having lost my local contract, I am now a bit of a road warrior, which means the only thing I see is airplanes, hotel rooms, and datacenters. So … in an effort to actually have a little contact with the outside world, I’ve caved and started to play WoW.

Really, I’ve known all along that it is a losing battle, to make someone choose between something they love to do, whatever that may be, and yourself. I’ve never really been a believer in the idea that you can change people, they will always be who they have always been. I also believe that no one is perfect, and that fairy tale of perfection, or line of crap, that we have been sold about marriage is just that. Marriage is not about two people finding their soulmates, or some other religious nonsense, its about two best friends making compromises to live and work together.

We have all heard about Mommy Porn, well now, I am calling out the marriage porn, because its still crap. All that silly stuff about people instantly knowing, and being perfectly happy everyday forever, that’s a lie. No one person is perfectly happy everyday forever, even with no stresses, so how can two be every minute of everyday? That idea is nothing but a fiction. Its about compromise, and what level of compromise or sacrifices you are willing to make.

So how, you may ask, does this relate to WoW. Well, as many a Gen X or Y woman may know, a lot of people are addicted to these online games. People spend all theirs days and nights playing, even taking vacation for in-game special events. I thought I remembered a few cases of people playing for so long they eventually had heart failure at their computer. I couldn’t find the link, but if I do later, I will add it. Well, people squirel their entire lives away on these games, and Mr. Pilgrim is one of them. Not the worst, by far, because somehow dogs get let out and fed, dishes get done, and the occasional meal gets cooked, but a gamer is a gamer.

Whenever I think about it, I remember reading this quote, and it brought me to a realization, that you can’t change people, you can only change yourself. I am, just for the record, actually referring to a sibling, we’ll call him Speedy, but he’s a story for another day. I wish I could write something that evoked the same sadness in you, that reading it did in me, but alas, I do not have the words.  So I leave you with the words of Rainer Maria Rilke …

A person isn’t who they are during the last conversation you had with them – they’re who they’ve been throughout your whole relationship.
Rainer Maria Rilke

By the way, if anyone runs into a Blood-Elf Hunter names Keallach, be sure to say hi.

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